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Why Your Definition of Love Isn’t Working | The Truth About True Love

February 2, 2026 · 1:05:31

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Recap

Pastor Travis Hearn kicked off the 'True Love' series by challenging the congregation to unlearn worldly definitions of love and rediscover its true, biblical nature. He began by illustrating how we often learn about love from flawed sources like culture and media, leading to a counterfeit version focused on lust, instant gratification, and self-service. The foundational truth, from 1 John 4:8, is that 'God is love.' Love is not merely something God does; it is His very nature and identity. Everything in Scripture flows from this love, which is patient, kind, and selfless, as described in 1 Corinthians 13. The world defines love as a temporary feeling or desire, but true love is a holy devotion that requires sacrifice, commitment, and boundaries. Pastor Travis emphasized that God's boundaries around love and sexuality are not restrictive but protective, designed to guard our hearts and preserve true intimacy. He taught that true love is holy before it is happy, calling for a 'holy culture' over the world's 'hookup culture.' Finally, he declared that true love is a conscious choice and a covenant, mirroring Christ's commitment to the church, not a fleeting emotion. The message concluded with a prayer for healing in relationships, strength for marriages, and an invitation to enter into a covenant relationship with Jesus.

Main Points

  • God is the very definition of true love; His nature is the foundation for understanding love, not culture or feelings.
  • True love is holy before it is happy; it requires boundaries, sacrifice, and a commitment to honor God and others.
  • True love is a choice and a covenant, not a feeling; it is a resilient commitment modeled after Christ's love for the church.

Verses Mentioned

  • 1 John 4:8 - "Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love." (NIV)
  • 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 - "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." (NIV)
  • Ephesians 5:1 - "Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children" (NIV)
  • 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 - "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies." (NIV)
  • Romans 12:1-2 - "Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will." (NIV)
  • Genesis 2:24 - "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." (NIV)
  • Ephesians 5:25 - "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" (NIV)
  • Philippians 4:7 - "And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." (NIV)

Daily Action Plan

Monday

Scripture Reflection: 1 John 4:8 (NIV) - 'Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.'

Focus Point: Foundational Truth

Action Plan: Write down one way your understanding of love has been shaped by culture. Pray and ask God to reveal His true nature of love to you today.

Deep Prayer: God, thank you that you are love. Help me to unlearn any false definitions and to know you more deeply as the source of all true love.

Tuesday

Scripture Reflection: 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 (NIV) - 'Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.'

Focus Point: The Character of Love

Action Plan: Insert your name into 1 Corinthians 13:4-5. Identify one attribute (e.g., patience, kindness) that is challenging for you and practice it intentionally in one relationship today.

Deep Prayer: Lord, fill me with your love. Make me more patient and kind today, reflecting your character in my interactions.

Wednesday

Scripture Reflection: 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (NIV) - 'You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.'

Focus Point: Honor and Boundaries

Action Plan: Reflect on one boundary (in relationships, media consumption, or speech) that would help you honor God and others. Commit to upholding it today.

Deep Prayer: Holy Spirit, you dwell in me. Give me wisdom and strength to set healthy boundaries that honor you and protect the gift of my life.

Thursday

Scripture Reflection: Romans 12:2 (NIV) - 'Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.'

Focus Point: Renewing the Mind

Action Plan: Replace one piece of media input (song, show, social media scroll) with 10 minutes of reading Scripture or a devotional focused on God's love.

Deep Prayer: Father, transform my mind. Help me to reject the world's patterns and be renewed by your truth about love and holiness.

Friday

Scripture Reflection: Ephesians 5:25 (NIV) - 'Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.'

Focus Point: Covenant Commitment

Action Plan: Whether married or single, perform one act of selfless service for someone in your life, choosing to love as a commitment, not just a feeling.

Deep Prayer: Jesus, thank you for your sacrificial, covenant love. Teach me to love others with that same commitment and selflessness.

Saturday

Scripture Reflection: Genesis 2:24 (NIV) - 'That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.'

Focus Point: Covenant Oneness

Action Plan: Pray for the marriages in your life (your own, family, friends, church). If you are single, pray for God to prepare you for a covenant relationship rooted in Him.

Deep Prayer: God, you designed covenant relationships. Strengthen marriages to reflect your faithful love. Prepare my heart to love and be loved according to your perfect design.

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